Guruji Sri Vast:
When we see something beautiful, we like to own that beauty. That is why so much beauty is destroyed in this world. We like to own the beauty and when it is owned, it’s not beauty anymore. When we see a beautiful flower, we like to own that flower. But you can stand, and you can look at it – Oh, my God, it is so beautiful! – and you are fulfilled with that beauty. Then you move on. Then another beauty is available. Wow! So great! The whole path is filled with beauties. But normally what do we do? Wow! It’s so beautiful – we cut it. Then I walk with this beauty because now I am satisfied. I own this beauty and I don’t see any other beauty. At home, I put it in a glass of water. It’s done. It’s on my dining table and I don’t look at it anymore! In the evening the flower is drooping. I throw it out and tomorrow morning I want to own something new. But if I had not picked it? So many people would have enjoyed its beauty, so many people would have appreciated that beauty.
Ownership removes the beauty. If the flower is on the plant, it has a freedom. It can bloom further. And even when it falls down, it creates something beautiful around it, it gives something back to the same system. It becomes part of a cycle. But when we bring the flower home, we don’t use it, we throw it out.
It is the same thing with relationships. This person is so beautiful! We want to own this person. We want to own this person because we are afraid that they may not be there for us, only for us. By owning this person, we close our eyes to the rest of the beautiful people in the world. I am not saying don’t own anything and simply flirt around, I am saying that once you own something, you may not even take care of it anymore. It’s confirmed that this is mine now. And after some time this is gone, the flower is not the same anymore, the person is not beautiful anymore. We don’t see that beauty continuously because once we owned it, it’s done. The freedom is lost.
Once you go into a garden the first time, “Wow! It’s so great! So beautiful!” After two months? “Mm. I have seen this garden.” But it’s not true! Every day the garden is new. Every day there’s a new flower, every day there’s a new blade of grass, every day an old flower falls down, a new flower blooms, there are new plants, new branches, every day the garden is new. The ignorant mind has stored one picture and it doesn’t look for the new. It immediately refers only to the old picture. But every day it is a new garden, and the garden that you see now is only available today. Because tomorrow there are new flowers, new branches, new colors, new fragrances, new dreams. This garden is available only now and tomorrow the garden is totally new.
It is the same thing with a person also. Every day a person is new. Every day you are a new person. You cannot judge yourself because of your past. If you are not able to see the garden every day as new, then you are also not able see yourself as a new person. If you are not able to see yourself as new every day, start with the garden. Every day look at the flower. “Oh, my God! Today this plant is new! Today there are some new leaves!” Find one plant and observe every day, “Wow! It’s not the same plant!” Tomorrow, “Wow! There are new buds coming, new branches coming. Then something must be happening to me also, something must be new in me also. Old flowers fall down – something must be falling down from me too.” You can see something is happening to you.
Like a child, find some small plant and observe that plant, every day. You say, “Wow! What happened to you today? How are you today? And who are you today?” “I am the plant with four flowers today. I am the plant with 18 leaves today and two leaves are new today.” “Wow! That’s cool!” There’s something new! And tomorrow you go and look at the same plant, “How are you today? And who are you today?” Because you don’t know this plant, you are meeting a totally new plant. “I’m the plant with only one flower today but three more leaves today. And I am dancing, I am bending today.” Aha! Something new. Something happened. It had four flowers and today one new flower. Something is gone, some new flower is here. Maybe within me also? Something is gone from yesterday and today something is newly blooming inside me, some new fragrances are coming to me. You will see how every day you are blooming, how every day you become a new flower and that your life is not stagnant. Observe this plant for one week and you will see, “Yes, I am not static, I am not stagnant, I am not the same person. Every day I am transforming. Every day I am evolving. Every day I am new. My old stories are not valid anymore.”
Accept something is happening in this plant so something is happening to you also. Just appreciate that plant. And accept that something new is happening to you, something old is leaving you. Suddenly the concept of the flower and you, the concept of observer and what is observed, will dissolve. The concept of you and the flower will not be there, only the blooming will be there, you and the flower bloom.